Am I Gay?

My kids are taught that you can’t control who you love.  Some boys love boys, some girls love girls.  It’s just a fact of life.

When my son was eight he came to me and asked, “Mommy, am I gay?”

“I don’t know Zach,” I replied, “Do you want to kiss boys?”

“No,” he said, smiling.

“Do you want to kiss girls?” I asked.

He thought about it and said, “No.”

“It’s too soon to tell,” I told him.

Zach’s uncle is gay and being gay is no big deal in our house.  I really think that’s the way it should be in everyone’s house.

The earlier you teach your children tolerance and acceptance the easier it will be for them to accept all people regardless of race, religion or sexual orientation.  Best thing about it is that Zach knows, beyond a shadow of a doubt, that if he does end up being gay we will love him just as much as we always did.  Think about that for a minute… think about how many teens commit suicide because they’re too scared to be gay alone or to come out and be rejected.  Regardless of how you feel about homosexuals, be it for religious or other reasons, there is always a chance that your child could be one (or your niece/nephew/cousin/aunt/uncle/etc).  Would you love your child less? Would it change who they are? I pray not.

Today is Harvey Milk’s birthday.  Until the movie I had never heard of Harvey Milk.  I’m proud of what he did.  I’m proud to say that, regardless of who you love, my family will judge you on the content of your character… not your orientation.

–Submitted by Dawn Tulman,

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