This is what too many people fail to understand about adolescent girls when it comes to sex, rape and personal agency: The experience of being alive in their bodies makes them sometimes sexual, sometimes curious, sometimes desirous, sometimes totally innocent — and at all times vulnerable to other people’s interpretations of their behavior, of their decisions, of their very existence in bodies equipped with brand-new womanly features. And all they have to counter those interpretations are their own voices — voices that are routinely ignored, dismissed and silenced. What does a kid that age know, after all? At least until an older man says, she knew damn well what she was doing.Five minutes after we ended the interview, Kampmeier called me back to say she wanted to add one more thought: “When you rape a girl, the problem is not that you’re taking away her purity — which is what gets the religious right up in arms — it’s that you’re taking away her wholeness. And trying to keep her ‘pure,’ repressing her sexuality, silencing her voice, also takes away wholeness. It’s two sides of the same coin.”I don’t want my daughter to grow up pure,” she said. “I want her to grow up whole.”
via Polanski, “Hounddog” and 13-year-old voices – Broadsheet – Salon.com.
“Abstinence education works,” Hatch said in a statement LifeNews.com received. “My amendment restores a vital funding stream so that teens and parents have the option to participate in programs that have demonstrated success in reducing teen sexual activity and, consequently, teen pregnancies.”
“I laud the Senate Finance Committee for its strong bipartisan vote to ensure valuable programs such as these continue to help teach our children about healthy lifestyle choices,” he added.”The absence of an abstinence only education program has negative health consequences for our nation’s most vulnerable citizens,” he explained.
“Teenage pregnancy is a leading contributor to poverty, which in turn leads to poor health outcomes for mothers and children; sexually active teens are more likely to experience mental health issues such as depression or attempted suicide; and sexually active teens are more likely to suffer health consequences such as increased rates of infection with sexually transmitted diseases.”
via Senate Finance Committee Reinstates $50 Million in Abstinence Education Funding.
As the new school year heats up, so does the public debate about sex education. What do we teach teenagers about sex, and what do we leave them to figure out on their own? If we can agree that few teens learn about sexuality in an accurate, age-appropriate, and comprehensive way, then where does that leave adults who came through the same school systems they did? Many of us are still full of questions that we aren’t quite sure how to articulate. Few can claim that they’ve figured sex — and its social influence — out.If you want to graduate to the next level of sexual health, pleasure, and social awareness, now’s your chance. Get yourself schooled with a crash course in sex ed for adults. From orgasms to organs, from contraceptives to court decisions, look to the reading list below for the can’t-miss books and articles about sex.
via 40 Books About Sexuality That You Have to Read | | AlterNet.
However, of most concern is the document’s systematic promotion of masturbation to children beginning at age five. In fact, Floyd Godfrey, LPC, whose specialty is treating youth with sexual addictions stated: “After working with hundreds of clients with sexual compulsions, I have seen masturbation as the most common symptom of sexual addiction. It is also the most common compulsive behavior for teenagers who later develop addictions. Instructing young children in sexual behavior is abusive. Although some young children encounter masturbation as they grow up, this does not give adults license to teach them how to perform sexual acts. It is inappropriate and against the law to teach young children sexual behavior.”
via Stop the UN from sexualising children.
“Active consent is about re-framing discussions on sexual consent from strictly ‘no means no’ to a model which states that anything less than active participation is not consensual,” said Rachel Tomlinson Dick, director of the Women’s Resource Center. “It’s about moving the conversation to ‘yes means yes.’”
via Safer Sex Cabaret spices up sex ed for UNO students
The state’s and the UN’s focus — as well as the world’s general acceptance of the UN’s draft — on the sexuality of such young children is very disconcerting. Whether they are 5-year-olds or tweens, they should not be told what sex is and how to have it. That’s much too young of an age to indoctrinate them on every nuance of sexuality, even in this era of declining values. They do not possess the maturity, morality or sense to process the information given to them. They’re kids! By showing them the ins and outs of sex, their young, inquisitive minds will no doubt be more apt to experiment at that young age, further driving down the average age at which people have their first sexual experience 15 years of age.
via Tonawanda News – CONFER: Sex ed’s youth movement.
Nigerians need to let go of that moral crap, sex is not bad; So why do Nigerians demonize it?
Your mother cannot even give you proper sex education as a yound adolescent, rather she says ‘ if you go close to a boy or if a boy should touch you , you’ll get pregnant’ .
BULLCRAP!!!!! Hey wonderful mother, why don’t you say ‘ my girl, if you have sex without protection with a young man you will get pregnant’ .
Isn’t that real and honest compared to making your child believe she’s some reincarnation of Virgin Mary that will concieve by some holy apparition.
Why don’t you tell your child, because believe me , she already knows the whole 9 yards, I dare say at age 12 she knows half of what you knew at age 23.
via Ttlolla’s Mind: Lets Talk Sex.
Hafen spent a large portion of his talk, held during a Sunday-like service, criticizing the gay-rights movement and denying a biological link to sexual orientation. Same-sex attraction is “not in your DNA,” he said.He attacked the APA’s decision to remove homosexuality from its list of mental disorders, deeming it politically motivated.”In the early 1970s, the public and most lawyers, doctors and therapists saw homosexuality not as normal adult behavior but as a psychological disorder,” he said. “We have witnessed primarily an aggressive political movement more than we’ve witnessed substantive change in the medical or legal evidence.”
via Homosexuality ‘not in your DNA,’ says LDS leader – Salt Lake Tribune.
While people may privately get on quietly with their own preferences in life, this article is an affront of most of us in society. Our age-old inheritance, our culture, our Judaeo-Christian heritage means that officially, at least, the definition of a Family is not open to discussion.
Some of you might reiterate that even today, among certain off-beat sects of both Judaic and Christian cultures, there are menage a trois models and so on. Indeed, as I started, privately people may get on with their preferences.
We must bear in mind that in these seemingly lovey-dovey arrangements, invariably it is the women who get side-lined, maltreated and so on, in due course. Prudish though it may seem, I’m of the belief that if two people cannot agree to make a normal life together in the context of bringing up a family, then they needn’t do it at all.
Remember that there nigh on 7 billion people on Earth today. This selfish, egotistic, Bohemian style existence is not at all welcome at all. If people who cannot, for any reason, commit to setting up a unit with one other, they should dedicate their life to one or more of very edifying causes – whether professional, musical, artistic or whatever.
Bastardising society will only lead to some new Sodom and Gomorrah.
via Meet the polyamorists – a growing band of people who believe that more lovers equals more love – Taboos & Tolerance, Love & Sex – The Independent.
Condoms may not be 100% effective, but they protect against pregnancy and STDs far better than Jesus.
via The Gaytheist Agenda » Blog Archive » WTF Mississippi?.
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